A Real Story of Transformation

I recently received a beautiful letter from a client who wanted to share how learning assertiveness has changed her life — and her marriage — for the better.
With her permission, I’m sharing it with you today.

A Letter from Mary Ellen

Dear D’vorah,

I hope you are doing well.
I’ve been reflecting on all that I’ve learned from you, and I wanted to express my deepest gratitude for the guidance and tools you shared with me on assertiveness.

Your support and techniques have made an incredible difference in my life — far beyond what I ever imagined. I was surprised at how easy it was to use the techniques once I made up my mind to do it. I was even more surprised that my husband truly heard the message and made a change, just as I had asked.

This was crucial because I had been seriously considering asking for a trial separation — something I desperately didn’t want, but felt pushed toward because of ongoing frustrations. I was often angry, and I hated feeling that way toward him.

A Defining Moment

Recently, at a gathering with friends, my husband made a comment that belittled me in front of everyone.

In the past, I would have either laughed it off to avoid confrontation, stayed silent while seething inside, or burst into tears from the hurt.

But this time, I chose a different path. I remembered the “broken record” technique you taught me. I calmly said:

“I don’t appreciate being spoken to like that in front of others. I would like you to stop.”

When he tried to brush it off with a joke, I repeated firmly:

“I don’t find it funny, and I need you to stop.”

To my amazement, he paused, seemed to realize I was serious, and stopped.

That moment was incredibly empowering. It was the first time I stood up for myself without lashing out, feeling guilty, or being drawn into an argument.

Later, we talked privately, and I shared — assertively — that this pattern had been hurting me for a long time. He thanked me for bringing it to his attention.

A New Chapter Begins

Since that day, something has shifted between us.

My husband has been noticeably more thoughtful and kinder with his words.
I feel a growing sense of respect in our relationship. It’s not perfect — but it’s progress.

Most importantly, I feel hopeful again.

Thank you so much for giving me these life-changing tools.

I feel stronger, more confident, and more empowered — both in my relationships and within myself.

With sincere appreciation,
Mary Ellen

You Can Experience This, Too

Assertiveness isn’t about confrontation — it’s about clear, calm, and respectful communication.
It’s about valuing yourself enough to stand up for your needs without anger or guilt.

When done right, assertiveness can transform relationships, heal old wounds, and rebuild trust — just as it did for Mary Ellen.

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